Tuesday, August 24, 2010 by kristen

Ian started back to school full-time yesterday at GA State.  I’m happy for him as he is going back to not only pursue a degree in something I think that he is amazing at – writing/English – but to finally get his Bachelor’s degree.  As we went for our daily dog walk last night he told me about his first day of school and I was happy to see we had achieved that moment.  Ian going back to school full-time was a goal for both of us and we had been working towards that goal for several years now.  It required some definite rearranging of our lives, changed priorities, and required some sacrifice but we are both on-board and committed to him going full-time and finishing his degree.

So Ian is going to school and still continuing to work part-time from home.  I started my training back up again last week and managed to get in 6 miles on Sunday.  I added a 7th half-marathon on Sunday, October 3rd.  I am still planning on doing the half-marathon on Thanksgiving and in Kiawah.

Consequently, Monday ended the “summer” life we had created at the end of May and now we move forward in our new “fall” life.  What can I say, we definitely lead a non-monotonous life.  But I guess this is the point, shaking life up a little bit or a lot.  Whatever the case, I don’t think I’ll look back at 2010 and think, “wow, that was a boring year.”

Posted: August 24th, 2010 under Run for Ian - 1 Comment.

Back to school. Again.

I sat in the outdoor cafe overlooking Bryant Park, awaiting a drink I wasn’t sure would ever arrive.  I didn’t care one way or the other at that point, and I wouldn’t have been surprised or upset if they had left me to sit there until closing time.  Out of 36 or so waking hours in New York City, about a quarter had been spent by that moment; there was not enough time to do a lot, but plenty of time to do not much of anything.  To simply be in the city was what I wanted, and fortunately I had nowhere else to be but in that wobbly chair, at that wicker table, in that pinpoint of Manhattan.

New York’s pulse is deafening at first, at least for those who pay attention.  But if you listen, uninterrupted for even an hour, the pounding subsides and you find yourself pleasantly moved by it.

Within seconds of the notion, I caught a glimpse of my waiter carrying a tray upon which sat two perfectly mixed Bloody Marys.  Obviously someone else knew what I knew, or was about to find out.  Or maybe he felt bad about taking so long and decided to double me.  But as he set the glass down on my table, he turned, and the second glass went instead to the table behind me.  The guy at the table had been watching.  I knew because, before I had even touched my drink, he was toasting his.  ”Best bloody in the city, man.  Cheers.”

“Cheers!” I replied, glass now in hand, having stretched my quarter-turn into a half.  I lifted my glass to the stranger, took a long sip, and agreed; I actually had no idea if it was the best bloody in the city–I only knew it was the best I’d ever had.

An instant into lifting my nod, I saw this would be more than just a simple greeting.  Strangely, I could tell right away he was not from the city.  It’s not an easy thing to say that this guy stuck out; so many people in New York stick out that eventually none of them stick out.

It wasn’t his nature.  He may have been a bit more outwardly friendly than you might find in New York, but that wasn’t it.  It wasn’t his look.  He wore designer jeans, a T-shirt that probably cost more than the jeans, and a pair of world-weary flip-flops.  His hair and goatee looked as if they were typically well-kempt but had been let out to play for the weekend.  A hipster on vacation from himself.  Certainly not out of place.  Perhaps it was his ease, lack of urgency…  It could very well have been that he was to me what I was to him — someone who just wanted to be somewhere else for a few days.

“How long you been in town?” he started.

“Ahh, about 16 hours.  Flight was delayed from Atlanta.  Didn’t get to my room until almost midnight.”

“Atlanta.  Yeah.  Never been there.  Hear it’s O.K.  Some good restaurants.  Hot in the summer, yeah?  It’s not the heat, it’s the humidity, right?” he said a little less than half-mockingly.

“Yeah, sure,  I don’t know dry heat,” starting to work on shaking him off.   “Hot is hot.  You wait for Spring and Fall.”

“I hear ya.  Don’t have that problem too much in L.A.”

Yeah, that made sense.

He pressed.  ”What’re you in town for?”

Within a breath, my knees got the burning, anxious feel they get when I want to either run up a mountain or kick someone in the balls.   Bryant Park was no longer the place I wanted to be on this Saturday.  But vacation said, “Just hangin’ out.  Visiting some relatives.  They offered me a free place to stay for a couple nights, so, you know, ‘Why not?’”

“Hell yeah, why not?  Same here.  Staying with my brother for a few nights.  He’s working now; I’m just killing time ’til he gets off.”

“Nice.”

“So what do you do down there in Atlanta?”

I decided a long time ago that I would never answer this question by explaining what I do for a living, even though I know that’s the question.  I’ve met so few people with jobs that are actually interesting enough to talk about that I make it a point to steer away from talking about mine.

“A lot of stuff.  Play golf.  Read.  Watch movies.  Love movies.  A little light carpentry.  Really whatever.  I just try to keep from getting bored,” is what I said.  Then, “No, I mean what do you do for a living,” is what I thought.

“No, I mean what do you do for a living?” he said with the predictable condescending half-laugh that always comes with the suggestion that I’m naive for not assuming that people always want to know where I get my money.

“Oh.  I’m a paralegal.”  And to answer the next question before it was asked, “Our firm handles foreclosures.”  And wait for it, two, one…

“Haha, wow, so you guys are busy!”

I know there are less interesting jobs than mine.  At least, I really hope there are.  But thanks to the sub-prime mortgage market and its firm, unchanging spot in the news cycle, I have a job that anyone can talk about.  Everyone wants the details of what actually happens when irresponsible people accept money from irresponsible lenders.  And somehow it still surprises me that people wouldn’t expect my answers.  Debtors call me, they cry, complain, curse me–I mean, it’s not hard.  People blaming me and everyone else for their situation, and I can comfortably say that’s the easy part.

What people don’t know they don’t want me to tell them is that at the beginning of every month, I’m at the exact same point as I was at the beginning of last month.  And the month before that.  And before that, going back in perpetuity.  I get a bunch of files, a month later I sell a bunch of houses, and then I get a bunch more files.  It never goes anywhere.  I don’t build anything and I don’t tear anything down–I just get dropped on my ass on the first Wednesday of every month.  These kids I knew when I lived in Athens, well, I had their file, and it…

But I knew that’s not what this guy wanted to hear, nor what I felt like explaining, so I just drew my scripted conversation ender:

“Yep.  Complete job security.  Debtors are keeping me employed.”

Where I would normally get a shake of the head, along with a “Whew,” or “That’s tough, man,” I instead caught the guy in genuine thought.  Something had gotten the wheels turning, but I didn’t know right away whether or not it was me.

“Man,” he finally offered.  ”Sounds like something I could use.”

“What…” part of that sentence could he possibly…

“Debtors.  Debtors.”

“…do you mean?” I finished, even though he hadn’t heard the first part.  I guessed he wasn’t hearing me at all anymore.

“Fuck, man, sorry.”  He had been listening.  Well, hearing, anyway.  “You know that show Hoarding: Buried Alive?”

“Ha, yeah.  I watched it once.  On purpose.  Never watched it again.  On purpose.”

“That was me.  I mean, not me as in ‘I’m a hoarder,’ but that was my show.  Debtors would totally work for TLC.”  He looked at our almost had glasses and raised a finger no one saw.

He wanted to know, “So, are all of them just complete losers?”

I wanted to back up.  “OK, sorry, I thought the hoarders show was on A&E…”

“Oh yeah, Hoarders is on A&E.  My show is on TLC.  Had to pitch it, but it wasn’t hard.  I told them one show about hoarders wasn’t enough.  Supply wasn’t meeting demand, you know?  The Loathing Channel…they paid me to do it.”

“He smiled sideways at his joke as he finally caught the eye of a waitress.  I had already begun to sink back into my seat before I saw the waitress’ nod as he pointed two fingers toward our table.  It’s one thing to run into a TV guy.  It’s another thing to run into a TV guy who makes complete crap.  It’s yet another thing to run into a TV guy who makes complete crap, knows it, and is willing to talk about it and drink to it.  I’m sure it happens all the time, but not to me.  Even if I had had to pay for a couple nights in the City, which I had not, at this moment I would have already been up more than a few marks on the weekend.

“The Loathing Channel, huh?”  I wanted to play along but didn’t want to play dumb, and added a smirk-lookaway.

And he bit.  “Yeah, man, you know how anyone who shows up on the LEARNING channel hates himself?” as if it were obvious.  It is obvious, but it’s presumptuous to just throw it in my lap.  “Shit, anyone who watches TLC hates himself.  That’s why they watch.  They love seeing someone, ANYONE, more fucked up than themselves.”

It sounded rehearsed, but I was being handed a drink.  Alright, not rehearsed, but well thought out.  No, rehearsed.

“The LEARNING Channel.  How do you learn from hoarders, midgets, five-year-old beauty queens…fucks that had eight kids by accident…fucks that had 19 kids ON PURPOSE?  I mean, how many damn times can you cry over some shallow fuck giving some other shallow fuck a tatoo?”

I watch L.A. Ink, and enjoy it for a reason I’ve told myself, but I got his point.  That is to say I got his point before he made it, but found it soothing to hear someone else say it.

“I got the fuck outta there, though.”

“So…you’re staying in TV, though, right?” I mean, the future of junk TV hinges on guys with a thick sense of humor.  We don’t want to lose him.

“You know what’s coming up in January?”

It had to be the reason he quit.  Of course, I was only giving him the benefit of the doubt.  Normally “getting the fuck outta there, ” or, “giving them the finger” only comes only after you’ve been told you will not receive any more paychecks.  I’ve never been fired from any job, but I know people who have, and that’s what they say.  They’re all liars, but right then, as usual, I didn’t care.

Gay Babies.”

I laughed.  It wasn’t a typical joke so it didn’t get a typical, polite laugh.  I actually laughed, and now actually liked this guy.

But he didn’t laugh.  He didn’t break, didn’t crack…he barely moved.  His eyes remained fixed on the outdoor-ping-pong pretenders.  “Gay Babies.”

It was my turn to bite.  “Gay Babies?!”  I had halted half-sip and suspended my glass for polite, dramatic effect.

Gay Babies, I shit you not.  From Fetus to Fabulous.  It’s fucked up, yeah?  Whatever.  I got hooked up with Discovery.  Friend of a friend.  We got eight new logging shows for next summer.”

“Eight?!”

Logging the Gobi, Logging NYC.  Six others.

“Gay Babies?!”

“Flaming.  Dipshits’ll watch anything.  It’s a job, man.  Guessing you sit at a desk.  I don’t.”

“Yeah,” raising two fingers while mouthing, “Scotch,” followed by an emphatic thumb-up, eyes to the ground as it were my only option in my dying moment.  “Hope you like single malt.”

“I’ll cut you in on Debtors,” he said with a wry, almost believable smile.  And I hoped, and almost believed he meant it.  “So, do they really cry?”

“Put them on camera and they’ll cry as much as you want.”

The guy’s name was Dan.

Posted: August 4th, 2010 under Run for Ian - No Comments.

July 15, 2010 by kristen

Ian said to me the other day that stopping chemo was like someone close to you dying.  Not a friend but the loss of something that you don’t even necessarily miss, but still it leaves a void.  Chemotherapy was our security blanket.  It was hard on both of us, Ian physically, both of us mentally, but it was a steady routine that ultimately shrunk his tumor or at times kept it from growing and that gave us comfort.  He pointed out that the chemo was something we shared.  Having discovered the tumor right after we were married, we didn’t settle in to a normal married life, if there is such a thing.  But we began a life of doctor visits, daily medication, MRI’s, chemotherapy, blood test, well you get the picture.  These things began to define who we were as a married couple.  Without the chemotherapy, it was as if we had to start over these past couple of months.  We realized that we needed to discover who we are together, putting his illness aside, and figure out how to fill the void that stopping chemotherapy left.  Some may point out that stopping chemotherapy should be a time for celebration and I think if the end result was no more cancer, we probably would handle things differently.  But as the tumor and the cancer are still present we find ourselves overwhelmed with what to do.  After 2 years it seems we would have answered this by now.

I chose updating our kitchen as a way for us to fill that void and for us to bond.  This was several weeks ago before Ian even verbalized the void but I must have felt it to and subconsciously and quickly came up with what I thought was a good solution.  Um, yeah, I would recommend never suggesting any type of home renovation project to fill any void.  If anything, that is a sure way to ruin a marriage or at the bare minimum cause endless hours of marital strife.  But Ian and I have fought, and yelled through the past 3 weeks of kitchen updating and as we are nearing the end have found some peace amongst the chaos.  I say chaos because everything that goes in the kitchen is on our living room floor and everything that was in our dining room is in our sunroom.  We walk daily amongst ladders, paint cans, tools, etc.  Poor Phoebe is neurotic from the chaos and is chewing all her hair off, which has led us to having to spend large amounts of time comforting her lately.

So here we are post chemo and the past couple of months have been anything but non-stressful, blissful or relaxing.  Add to that the past 6 months of weekends obligating us to showers, weddings, birthdays, and holiday functions and we are just worn out.  So as we will be finishing up the kitchen this weekend we find ourselves with an unexpected free weekend the following.  I am taking an extra day off from work in honor of the occasion and we will spend our weekend at home, doing nothing that involves any domestic responsibilities or home improvements.  We will find a pool to sunbathe by and a trail to hike.  I will read books, watch movies, drink wine and eat fatting food.  We will enjoy a nice, long, and quite weekend at home with no expectations or obligations.  We will not think of Cancer or tumors.  Maybe we have somehow come full circle with the stages of Grief.  We’ve gone from the final stage of Acceptance to the first stage of Denial.  I’m okay with that today, this month, and the rest of 2010.  Ian is to.  We are both just too damn tired and realistically, how can you fight Cancer if you can’t remember what you are fighting it for.

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July 1, 2010 by kristen

So the Run for Ian fundraiser is going very well and I’m overwhelmed with the support Ian and I have received so far.  We have surpassed our fundraising goal and are currently at $6,450.  The next half-marathon will take place in November on Thanksgiving Day.

I’m going to take a short break from writing the blog through the remainder of the summer but will get back in full swing come September with training updates as I start gearing up for my fifth half-marathon for 2010.

Ian Update: Ian has finished chemo and the next MRI won’t be scheduled until September.  He is currently working from home and will be starting school full-time in the fall.  I’m happy to report that for now he is healthy.

Please make sure you check back in the Fall and thanks to everyone for your love, friendship, support and donations.

Posted: July 1st, 2010 under Run for Ian - 2 Comments.

June 24, 2010 by kristen

I really hate the term “Honey Do List.”  It has some kind of negative connotation that one person is dictating to someone else a list of tasks to complete that they really have no interest in completing.  I like to think that Ian enjoys working on my “suggestions” of things to do around the house.  In fact, if you were to ask him he would probably even smile as he gives you an enthusiastic description of items he is working on.  Some of them “suggested” by me.  Of course, it may be a more of a smirk, with an eye roll, and he can be sarcastic at times.  But anyway, my current idea actually started from him.  We were walking last week with Phoebe when he says in a somewhat grim voice “I think our refrigerator may be going out.”  Well not one to dwell on the negative, we just went out and bought a new one.  Now some may call that compulsive shopping but I call it planning ahead.  So there it started, my idea, with purchasing that new refrigerator.  As I was standing there among the aisles of household appliances I thought, “why put that nice, new, good-looking refrigerator in that out-of-date kitchen.”  Have you seen my kitchen?  I think the wall paper dates back to the house being built, which was around 1967.  So first came taking down that plaid-old fashioned wall paper (thanks honey), then came color.  Well I was going to stop there but once an idea gets going, well I go with it.  As Ian said while he was painting trim last night, on a ladder, at 10:00pm, “this is YOUR artistic outlet.”  I’m glad he fills so enthusiastic about helping with my “art.”  Or maybe he is afraid I might hurt myself, which I have a tendency to do often.  I mean he has cancer and I’m the one who has had to go to the emergency room twice since we have been married.  And back to Ian on the ladder (which I’m not allowed on anymore) and for the record I was painting base boards.  So second was color, and well once we painted the walls well naturally we decided we will have to paint the cabinets, and that hardware is all wrong with the color of the cabinets, and if we are doing the hardware, we have to replace the light fixtures, I mean it would clash, and wouldn’t tile countertops look nice with a back-splash.  Hey, the new laminate flooring is all Ian’s idea.  Okay, okay, “I”, I mean “we”, have to stop at a new gas stove and oven combo.  Absolutely not, no new gas stove and oven combo (you may want to check back with me next month on this).

So we are redoing our kitchen, which will take about 5 months and hopefully for a minimal cost.  If you have been keeping up with our blog you know how important the kitchen is to us and how it will be very important to us in the future.  Why not put some love into the most important room in our house.  This update comes at a critical point in our lives.  We are not just recreating a room, but a life style.  I think this symbolism between the kitchen and this time in our lives, is that by changing this room we are somehow closing a chapter and beginning a new one.

Ian and I woke up this morning to one of the most important doctor appointments of our life.  It ranks in the top 5, which considering how many times we have been to a doctor and/or hospital in the past 2 years, well that is saying something.  Today was the day we found out what 22 months and 18 rounds of chemotherapy did for Ian.  What we found out is there was some shrinkage to the tumor but as the tumor is irregular, and its outlining boundaries can not be defined and it’s not solid, there can’t be an exact number put to the % of shrinkage.  We will not continue chemotherapy.  The potential toxicity it causes to the human body if he were to stay on it 24+ months is too great compared to the shrinkage the tumor has had.  The doctor does not believe that even continuing with chemo for another couple of months would be any more beneficial to the shrinkage, or that any benefit would out weigh the potential additional damage of toxins put into his body by the chemo.  Make sense?  This toxicity can mean not only damaging long-term effects to the body but potentially other tumors in other areas of the body.  Radiation is not recommended at this time.  Now we wait.  Or should I say, now we try everything else.  Every 3 months we will do an MRI to check for growth or to make sure it doesn’t morph into an aggressive stage.

I am so proud of Ian, living almost 2 years with a significantly large, cancerous, brain tumor in his head, and defying the odds.  He is so strong.  I hope those of you who know him and are lucky to be part of his life understand the struggles he goes through daily to live with this and have a normal life.  To be the friend, brother, son, and husband he is and yet to fight this every single day.  He never uses this as an excuse, even when he is scared.  This blog sounds all gloom and doom but it is not.  We are both actually looking forward to this next Chapter in our lives.  Leaving this first chapter of discovery, fear, chemo, and confusion behind.  I don’t have a name for this new Chapter yet, but I have hope that it will continue to give Ian and I this wonderful, complex, loving life that we have.

Thanks to everyone for your love and support!

Posted: June 24th, 2010 under Run for Ian - 2 Comments.

June 23, 2010 by kristen

Action packed, martial arts, kick ass movies are my favorite.  Add in a little science fiction, give me nunchucks, a high kick, little blood and gore and I’m good to go.  You can ask Ian, God help him if the ‘Underworld Trilogy’ or ‘Resident Evil’ series is on, I’m pretty much in for the night or just maybe the weekend.  Now I’m not saying I won’t occasionally pull out a girly comedy or tear jerker movie, but given the choice I would choose the ‘Transporter’ 1, 2 and 3 movies over popular movies like ‘My Best Friend’s Wedding.’  One of my best memories is sitting with my mom and Bob on Christmas Eve watching ‘Blade’ (another great classic) in a movie theater with no heat.  Bundled in my winter coat, hat, gloves, breathing cold air and eating popcorn, yeah, that was a good time.  And also, nothing against Cameron Diaz as I’m very excited about her new move ‘Knight and Day’ and can’t wait to drag Ian to the movies to watch it.

This love of action movies is a family thing.  When I lived close to my brother, Mark, our night out together consisted of such classics like ‘The Crow,’ a bag of popcorn, nestle crunch bites and a coke.  These movie nights together are some of my favorite memories.  Even now, when I find an opportunity to go to Baton Rouge, and Mark can get some time away from work, we will try to get in a beloved action packed movie.  Today is his birthday and I’m thinking about him and wishing I was there to celebrate with him with our movie tradition.  Happy Birthday Brother, I miss you!

Posted: June 23rd, 2010 under Run for Ian - No Comments.

June 21, 2010 by kristen

Now that Ian is working from home part-time, I can say that he seems happier, less stressed and focused on good health.  He is staying busy and finally getting time to do the “projects” he has wanted to do.  Me, I can’t complain, I get a healthy, home cooked meals every night.  And we can’t forget Phoebe.  She gets Ian, at home every day, with extra amounts of belly rubs, someone to nap with, afternoon sun bathing in the front yard, and lunch table scraps.  She is a pretty happy dog these days.  She might have it better then Ian and I combined, but that is another story for another day.

Last Monday, June 14th was our 2 year wedding year anniversary.  Yes, only 2 years.  When I say it seems like much longer, I don’t mean that in a negative way.  It’s just a lot has happened in the 3 years (2 years of marriage) we have been together.  We celebrated the day by me going to work for a good portion of the day.  However, I was able to come home early to Ian cooking corn-on-the-cob and ribs on the grill, flowers on the table and a romantic card.  I finished off the meal by making a salad and some kick-butt brownies.  We celebrated the evening by going to the Fox to see Conan O’Brien.  Have to say that it wasn’t to shabby for a Monday night anniversary!

The weekend got even more exciting as we started Saturday early at the “Celebrate Life” event hosted by Emory’s Winship Cancer Center at Peachtree Presbyterian on Roswell.  The event was for Cancer survivors and had breakout classes that focused on dealing with life during and after Cancer.  Ian and I chose classes having to deal with Healthy Eating and Massage.  We were so motivated we went to Whole Foods afterwards and had a blast shopping the aisles for healthy, non-processed, in-season food.  I didn’t think the day could get any better but we ate sushi, napped and then headed to Sears to buy a new refrigerator.  We finished the day hanging with Dorothy and Michael, drinking a pitcher of margaritas, and walking the dogs.  We were so exhausted we were in bed by 11:00 PM.

All and all it was a most excellent weekend.  Sunday was a Braves game for Ian, a massage and hanging with a friend for me.  I was even able to squeeze in a 45 minute run.    Point of this particular blog is that Ian and I are working at making choices that leave us in a positive place.  Ian headed into his MRI this morning, slightly nervous.  We head to the doctor together on Thursday to get the results.  Ian will most likely not be continuing chemo.  Our success in fighting Cancer is to have as many wonderful days as we did this past week and weekend.  It is all about love, faith and good living.

Posted: June 21st, 2010 under Run for Ian - 1 Comment.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010 by kristen

There is probably never a good day to spill coffee all of your bosses desk, but doing it two days after he returns from a two week vacation, when his desk is brimming with two weeks of paperwork and you have a long list of “I needs” from him is probably the worst time.  Not that he took it badly but it was only 9:15 AM in a work day that starts at 9:00 AM.  Add that to a late wake up, bad hair day, throbbing headache, leaving my coffee at home, forgetting my breakfast, traffic jam on I285, stopped at Starbucks where I proceed to drop my phone into many little pieces…  Yes, this Wednesday is the start of a bad day.  I may just shut my office door and make sure I don’t make any decision that may some how negatively alter my work environment or that I may just have to redo tomorrow because of my inability to do it correctly today.  I think these are the days that make you want to go home bury your head and shout “I give up.”  Maybe somewhat dramatic but as my husband can attest to, I am somewhat if not very dramatic.

So I’ll sit here at my desk, work through my bad day, go home to a home-made gourmet pizza prepared by my wonderful husband, have a glass of wine, go for a walk with Ian and Phoebe, and try to convince my husband that it would be in every ones best interest if he gave me a foot rub, and watch “So You Think You Can Dance.”  So the day may seem extremely long and hard but at least I have the end of the day to look forward to.

Posted: June 9th, 2010 under Run for Ian - No Comments.

De-FENSE! De-FENSE!

It’s noon, and The Godfather sits a tantalizing forty feet away.  On my days home on chemo I typically mix long movies with crap TV to pass the time, and my 25th(-ish) viewing of my second favorite movie would be so easy.  Not to mention Discovery Channel usually has some kind of mini-marathon event each afternoon, and if today’s is “A Haunting”, well, this thing just might not get written. (Alright, I checked.  It’s not.  So here we go.)

I mentioned the word “easy” because as I work towards the end of my 18th–and most likely final–round of chemo, I’ve begun to prepare myself for Life After Chemo.  In a broader sense, I’m preparing myself for Life After Cancer–but first things first.  I could not truthfully say that the past two years has been easy, because it hasn’t.  But when I look ahead to what I believe my life will need from now on, the last two years starts to seem relatively easy.  Taking pills has been easy.  It hurts for a few days a month, but then it goes away, and it becomes easy to forget what’s going on in my head.  Keeping my, ahem, head in the game (cough cough), is my challenge going forward–and it will not be easy.  Certainly not as easy and fun as Catchin’ Up With The Corleones.

It really occurred to me this morning as I put together a fresh apple-carrot-orange-strawberry juice.  Yes, Kristen and I are two people you can say you know who asked for a juicer as a gift, and have been using it regularly for its entire life.  ”Juicer” and “Treadmill” are the two words that will top every “Great Ideas for a Week” list ever compiled.  We do use it, but it’s not easy.  Well, not convenient at least.  As with a lot of culinary endeavors, the prep and cleanup suck most of the fun out of the actual doing.  I can say, however, as with almost all of my culinary endeavors, the end result is worth it.

Another thing I thought about was this, and it has nothing to do with anything, really.  But It will keep me away from TV for just a little longer:

Kristen and I went to Borders soon after we got the juicer to buy a book full of juice recipes.  The cashier looked at it, started laughing, and launched in to a mocking impression of her father preaching on the benefits of juicing.  It reminded me of this other time I was shopping at Borders in high school.  That time I was picking up whichever Newt Gingrich book was out at the time as a Christmas present for my stepdad.  The cashier that time wondered, “Why would you want a book by him?”  You know how too often you think of the right thing to say once it’s way too late?  At that moment I thought, “Because I’m not as judgmental and closed-minded as you.”  What I did, though, was tell my mom about it.  I mean, I wasn’t telling on the woman, I was just telling a story.  But my mom called Borders and hopefully got her fired at Christmas.  O.K. O.K., fine, I don’t hope she got fired.  Right then.  I only hope she was forced by management to write a report on Newt Gingrich’s book.  Anyway, the same thing happened when we bought the juice book.  This time I wanted to ask her, “Is it possible your dad might be on to something?  That he might know and feel something you don’t?”  It’s weird to hear those words come out of my head because I have a rich history of being a subpar listener.  I’ve gotten better.  And this woman was well into her thirties, too old to be poo-pooing her dad’s healthy habit teenager-style.  Note to Borders:  Drop the commentary and hand me my change.  The faster you can learn that, the faster you can move out of your parents’ basement.

And “subpar” in that sense doesn’t make sense to a golfer.  For a golfer, “subpar” is good, so, yeah…there you go.

I just finished reading a book called “In Defense of Food”.  I don’t intend for this to be book-review venue, so I’ll say simply this:  For someone who loves food, but was fairly uninformed about food (or in too many cases, as the author argues, not food), it was the perfect read–eye-opening, enlightening, and without the Scare-The-Shit-Out-Of-You factor on which so many health books and articles are based.  It laid out a legitimate and reasonable challenge for me–one that I’m excited about.

It’s not that I’m a horrible eater.  We eat very well in our house, but there are a couple places we slip.  Frozen egg-rolls and Totino’s pizza rolls (Or as I call them, pizza bites.  I don’t know why).  I love pizza bites.  Unfortunately, pizza bites do not love me back.  Now, I will say before we go further that I have no illusions of cutting out all chemically-based “foods” from my life.  There are times when a McDonald’s double cheeseburger is the only thing that will do.  That’s just the rules–I didn’t write ‘em.  It’s not very often that it happens, so I’m going to let myself have it.  But I eat enough pizza bites that I feel I can no longer justify the intake of artificial these and those.  What to do? This.  Of course, I’ll leave out the olives and pineapple because pineapple has no place on pizza and olives have no place in this world, but it’s all real food.  Better-tasting?  Probably.  Healthier?  Definitely.  Easier?  Certainly not.  And that’s the whole point.

This is just one example, one adjustment in a wholesale shift in the way I need to approach my health.   And that’s just the pizza bites!  Kristen and I will be going for organic fruits and vegetables, healthier cuts of meat, and real bread.  I haven’t actually talked to her about the bread thing yet, but I don’t think she’ll object.  Take a look at the list of ingredients on the bag of bread you buy at the grocery.  Kristen has done well to get me off this, in favor of this, and it was a good step.  But compare the lists to this.  Take into account that there is inherently a lot more going on in a pizza bite than a slice of bread in oder to compensate for the sheer length of this list.  There’s still a lot of crap in a slice of bread that shouldn’t really be in a slice of bread.  Now look at this.  Homemade bread–again, not the easy route.  For now, though, my mom is on the case and I’m looking forward to sandwich on warm homemade wheat bread tomorrow afternoon.

If that last part seemed a little pointed, I apologize.  I hate when people do that to me (Borders, I’m looking in your direction).  But this is where I am at the end of nearly two years of ingesting poison, i.e. chemo.  It’s up to me now to take a long look at what I put in my body, and it’s important for me to think out loud about it.  Our kitchen is in the center of our home and, in a way, will become even more the center of our lives.  It’s easy to think of worse things than this, of course, but easy is not what I’m after.  Life After Cancer is what I’m after.  That and a hummus-and-veggie pita.  Capisce?

Posted: June 3rd, 2010 under Run for Ian - 1 Comment.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010 by kristen

So Ian and I returned home from NYC last night from what I can only describe as an exciting, whirl-wind, non-stop trip.  Thanks to my Aunt Jan and Uncle Michael’s generous offer to let us stay in Jan’s parents Manhattan condo, we had front row seats to the city that never sleeps (literally, the view was amazing).  We had such a wonderful time exploring the city.  We were in walking distance to some of the most popular sites and felt like true city dwellers by the time we left!

After two days of city life we headed over to New Jersey to spend some quiet time with the family.  My dad, step-mom and grandparents were able to join us at my Uncle’s house for a wonderful Sunday dinner.  And hey, the trip could not be complete without waking up Monday morning to homemade blueberry pancakes prepared by my Aunt with freshly squeezed OJ added into some champagne for some very tasty Mimosas.  I have to say I’m a little afraid of the scale this week.  But scale aside, the trip was truly wonderful and I have to say thanks to my Aunt and Uncle for thinking of everything they possibly could think of to make our trip comfortable, fun and down right enjoyable.  Michael and Jan, we love you both!

Also, thanks to my mom for making the trip to Atlanta to house and pet sit.  Unfortunately, she fell ill and had to make an early trip home.  So special thanks to Dorothy and Michael for picking up our baby and keeping her the remainder of the time.  Yes, Phoebe was a little irritated with Ian and me when we picked her up last night, but we bribed her with steak, bones, dog treats and belly rubs and by the time we were ready to go to sleep, I think she had just about forgiven us.

Ian Update: So trip aside, reality set in last night as we returned home to chemo.  Ian started is 18th round last night.  As we have said before, this will most likely be the last.  Ian is now working part-time from home, so at least he will be able rest the entire treatment this round, versus working ½ the time and only taking off when it gets really bad.  I’m hoping the additional rest will help.  Also, I think that now that we reached the end we are finally getting the hang of it, at least nutritionally.  With adjustments to Ian’s diet, it will hopefully not be too hard for him.

Exercise Update: No serious training has been completed for the triathlon yet.  It looks as if the weekend we were planning to do it may be a bad time as I will have family in town that weekend and a wedding I’m participating in the week following.  Nothing is decided yet, but we may have to look at other potential triathlons that fall at another time during the year.  Regardless, Run for Ian half-marathons are up and running (no pun intended).  The next half-marathon is not until November and even though the running has slowed down considerably since the Flying Pig, I’m still getting mileage in.  I mean Ian and I got in about 8 miles of walking on Saturday alone on the streets of NYC.  It was combined with site-seeing but I felt it and think that counts, doesn’t it?

I’ll keep everyone update on Ian’s health and the half-marathon training.  I hope everyone enjoyed their Memorial Day weekend!

Posted: June 1st, 2010 under Run for Ian - 2 Comments.